ray and carol told me to come back and write up our own thread once we actually did it, so here it is for the next nervous family reading this at midnight. we wanted a camper for one reason, to get our two kids outside and away from screens on the weekends and spend a couple of real weeks together in the summer before they are too old to want to come with us. that was the whole purpose, not a fancy rig, just time outdoors as a family.
we landed on a 2020 Coachmen Freelander on the Ford E450, 19k miles, the floorplan with the bunk over the cab and a real dinette the kids can do cards at. my husband found it on lucas-motors.com about 7k under the nearest comparable class c at a dealer, and that dealer one had almost double the miles.
i did exactly what ray laid out in the other thread because i was terrified. pulled the history report, clean. watched the walkthrough video twice. then i called lucas motors and asked them to set up an independent rv inspection near where the coach was, and they lined up a mobile tech without any pushback. he checked the roof and seals, the floor for soft spots, ran the appliances, and told us it was a well kept unit. the only things he found were a slightly weak house battery and a cabinet latch that was broken, maybe 60 dollars of stuff.
we bid a hair over what i wanted to spend because i got nervous at the end, won it, and had it delivered. it showed up exactly like the pictures, which was the thing i could not stop worrying about. one trip in and the kids already call it the cabin on wheels.